Why Choose a Memorial Service?

Rather than opting to do things "the same old way", many families today want to celebrate the life of a loved one. Many funeral service professionals see this change as one of the many contributions to social change made by 'Baby Boomers'. The National Funeral Directors Association notes, "As baby boomers age and find themselves having to plan funerals for loved ones and themselves, they are making funeral choices based on values that are different than previous generations. Baby boomers see funerals as a valuable part of the grieving process and are seeking ways to make them meaningful." If you too desire to make the funeral for a loved one more engaging and personally meaningful, a celebration-of-life may be the perfect concept to build on.

How Does a Celebration-of-Life Differ from a Traditional Funeral?

As mentioned in the page Traditional Funeral Services, there are four basic components which make up the conventional approach to funerals:

1.  A Visitation
2. The Funeral Service
3. A Committal Service
4. The Funeral Reception

A traditional funeral then is a series of events; it's a ritualized process where the deceased, and the attendees, pass from one social status to another; a process where the torn fabric of a family and community is repaired. William Hoy, the director of a Texas-based center for bereavement education called Grief Connect, offers his suggestions of how a ceremony can best provide support in his article "Six Characteristics of Helpful Ceremonies": 

1. Symbols of shared significance intended to communicate beyond words
2. Ritual actions shared by a group of individuals
3. Gathered people providing comfort to one another
4. Connection to heritage through recognized readings
5. Increased physical contact between attendees provide comfort
6. Witnessing the transition of the body through burial or cremation

In knowing these characteristics, you can design a celebration-of-life–as unique as the life of your loved. Learn how to create a Celebration of Life.